1. When Their Behavior Becomes Abusive

If your adult child is verbally, emotionally, or physically abusive, you have the right to protect yourself. Boundaries are essential; if they keep crossing them, distance may be necessary.

2. When They Refuse Help or Treatment

If they consistently reject therapy, medication, or professional help despite clear struggles, you cannot force them to change. You can offer support, but you are not responsible for their recovery.

3. When Their Actions Destroy Your Mental Health

If their behavior causes severe stress, anxiety, or depression, you need to prioritize your well-being. You cannot pour from an empty cup—taking care of yourself is not selfish.

4. When They Engage in Self-Destructive or Illegal Behavior

If they are involved in substance abuse, criminal acts, or reckless behaviors, you may need to step back for your own safety. Encouraging them to seek help is essential, but enabling them is not.

5. When You Enable Instead of Help

If you're financially supporting them or constantly rescuing them from consequences, you might be preventing their growth. Sometimes, tough love is the most compassionate choice.

6. When There’s No Mutual Effort in the Relationship

If the relationship is one-sided, where you give and they only take, it might be time to step back. Healthy relationships require effort from both sides.

How to Walk Away (If Necessary)

• Set Clear Boundaries: Clearly communicate what you will and won’t tolerate.
• Seek Professional Guidance: A therapist or support group can help you navigate this decision.
• Consider a Middle Ground: Instead of cutting them off completely, limit interactions in a healthy way.
• Release Guilt: Choosing your well-being is not selfish—it’s necessary.

The Christian Perspective: A Biblical Approach to Depression

My research is focused on the causes of depression and possible solutions. I recommend seeking a Christian counselor who can provide guidance based on biblical principles.

• My 35-question survey helps identify root causes of depression rather than just diagnosing it.
• Many depression cases require talk therapy, not just medication.
• Pastors and Christian counselors can explore spiritual, ideological, and physical factors affecting mental health.

Modern psychology often ignores spiritual and ideological influences on depression. This is why biblical worldview classes in the church are crucial for those struggling.